On With a Brand New Day

We’re back :) ... want to send Vince a get well card first thing ... cuz he’s feeling under the weather. Get better V.! As well, Pam’s down too! Get better pretty lady!

So gathering our resources ... We’ve calculated today to being Sunday ... We have Monday off YAH HOOO! We’ve pretty much figured out the day now ... after a little writing, we’re going to try going to a meeting for multiples at 10 am. Then we’re going to get dressed and get some supplies for the football games ... then we’re going to watch the Minnesota game and the Seattle game - oh and umm whomever they’re going to beat! I think we’ll do like yesterday part reading/part game. Kind of balances the natural overwhelming tendencies we find in either. Last night we watched to baseball games while reading ... *Sigh* Pretty exciting all round. I might have watched 60 minutes after Football, but we’re not into "genocide." Skip that baby... Eh, I vote for football wrap up then and more baseball :) yup yup followed by a decent bed time!

As for the reading ... The book has been terribly interesting, but not lite reading. We took all night and am not done with the chapter on psychological mechanisms. We’re talking about stuff like projecting, integrating, differentiating, introjection, splitting and such. We’re gathering tiny pieces of the puzzle and trying to make a whole. The book is saying that in psychotic disorders we aren’t as able to take in or separate as well elements that include our thoughts, perceptions, emotions, and stuff. It gets pretty technical and involves our first "object relations." Usually this happens with the mother.

In good relationships ... first the mother is integrated as part of self, then differentiated as we are able to separate ourselves from her as an "object." Through integration the infant learns to hold on to the good mother even if she’s not there directly. I don’t think this book is going to help as much define the mega-problems of multiplicity in covering object relations. We had a very hostile/negligent mother relationship. Our goods and bads were pretty severe and in most cases opposite of what ought to have happened. Can’t begin to think through what having a sexual relationship with grandfather during infancy did to affect our mechanisms ... We’ve got many more questions than answers. Beginning to understand why this is being broken up by the cheering of the stadiums? Don’t under-estimate us though ... we WILL figure it out! An inch at a time...

Ahh, next the meeting with other multiples ... it's 10 am.

Hmm, that might be something to think on ... We made it out safely, but just cuz we worked at it.  There were only 5 multiple's and the main host wasn't there.  The secondary host was, but she's not real strong.  It seemed ok at first ... room kinda stalled at first thinking there would be more to come, but started eventually.  General easy questions and thoughts, but we'd forgotten about the "whisper" factor where people can talk to other people invisibly.  Someone messed up though and we were forced to read the message that was about us and not to us.  First impulse was our teenage how asked, "Would you like us to leave?" The host had felt bad, but the other didn't ... she was very hostile and took an attitude.  She was asking for proof we were invited, because she didn't know us.  We realized that it's bad form to leave two teenagers toughin it out, so we advanced an adult.  Situation handled.  Then someone in the room snuck me a hug, I didn't answer because I didn't want to get caught up like this, but then 5 minutes later the one that had sent the secret hug was caught up with the attitude person in another underground sabatogue.  We looked at the clock ... figured we'd put in our time and left.  *Sigh* Going to be a tough crowd.

OK, time to move on ... shower is done, we're dressed and time to pick up "the shtuff!"  :)  Sure hope people are feelin better ... Pam?  Vince?  Viv?  Anybody going to be up for a game?