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“Indeed we are our own happiness and each time we have strayed from ourselves we have been led to despair.  We cannot find ourselves in others.  We cannot live for others or always be what others want us to be, for what they want may not be what we are and that is all that we have.  We can only rely on ourselves.
 
This is such a simple fact, yet it is perhaps the greatest single cause of human psychological struggle and pain.  It is often easier for us to become what others desire but in so doing we relinquish our dreams, abandon our hopes and ignore our needs.  This leaves us feeling abandoned, weakened and impotent, without a genuine self.
 
We have all we need to become what we are, our perfect selves.  All we need to do to realize it is to recognize it, develop it and live it in action.  We must embrace ourselves as we are and as we have the potential to become before we can embrace life or others.
 
We must yield to the pull toward self-realization in a way which is good, loving, peaceful, joyful, patient and disciplined.  We must have desire to neither control, possess or dominate nor allow others to do to us.  Armed with the daring to turn inward and freed from the tyranny of externality, we must determine our way. 
 
We must affirm ourselves.  We continue to gain the wisdom and strength and freedom to accept as well as reject, to instigate change or remain static, to affect others as well as be affected by them, to determine circumstances as well as be at their mercy.  We are no longer puppets being manipulated by outside powerful forces; we become the powerful force ourselves.
 
For all human acts there are alternatives.  The greater the number of imaginative and creative alternatives to behavior we possess, the more meaningful the choice, the more self determined the action.”
 
Leo F. Buscaglia, Ph.D (1978)
“Personhood, the Art of Being Fully Human.”