Yesterday. there were quite a few emails back and forth from River Bank and Dr. M. They are both trying to help us with kinetic and potential energy concepts that are difficult for us. This is to better understand, among other things, the effect of abuse (and multiplicity that includes a core). It's tough because we never had physics.
River Bank, Dr. M., and us are all traveling along parallel paths. River Bank gave us a moving truck analogy, Dr. M. liked that, but furthered the process with these thoughts and analogy:
"When physic people talk about basic energy, the use potential and kinetic as terms. Potential energy is the amount of work an object at rest is able to do. Kinetic energy is the amount of work an object that is moving can do."
"Ok, so we have child who experiences trauma. He/she does not have the capacity to cope with it (process it, integrate it into his or her experience). The child is able to dissociate it. The process of dissociation is driven by the trauma ...Imagine a bucket with a rope attached. The rope goes through a pulley on the ceiling. You can raise the bucket by pulling down on the rope."
"Ok? So for each trauma, we have a bucket. In the bucket we put a certain number of rocks (memories and feelings) that approximate the severity of the trauma. The more severe the trauma, the heavier the bucket. The force of the trauma, pulls the bucket up to the ceiling (takes the memories , feelings out of site, and maybe parts). The rope is then tied off to something stationary on the ground (core personality?) So by the time the person gets to be an adult, he/she may have a lot of buckets in the air and lots of ropes to keep tied up."
"This is where the energy concept comes in. These buckets have a certain amount of potential energy associated with them. This is the state I think you were in when things started to go poorly with your ex. The stress caused you to loose grip of the ropes. Buckets came falling down, loaded with feelings and memories."
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