On Reparation of the Weakest Link

Yesterday was spent focussing on the individual with so many behavioral problems.  To be fair his mother had called to reschedule a missed meeting, so the time was naturally going to be centered more on the individual. 
 
In addition, it hadn't been a good day for the individual.  He had purposely walked into a preoccupied bathroom, he blocked the door so the DSP couldn’t leave the room, he locked himself behind the three doors leading to our office, and then to wrap up the day he gave another individual an unwarrented kiss. 
 
In the 30-day review we wrote a paragraph listing general infractions.  He had hit nearly all the eight categories of maladaptive behaviors.  We also gave a summary of the last behavioral/human rights meeting where he was featured.
 
The mother seemed not to have been surprised, then she added, “We’re having the same problems at home.”  She said that they’d tried everything, but usually a quick tempered father would revert to screaming and yelling.  She then said, it really wasn’t helping because the behaviors repeat and repeat.”  We then confirmed what we had figured in that her role in the family was to most often be reassuring the individual of love.
 
Sr. Tess contributed that the situation would be given just 30 more days of evaluation but without significant changes, he would not be admitted to the program.  I feel as if this individual and his family desperately need assistance.  After the meeting, we talked to the individual’s psychiatrist who volunteered he would be willing to come in and personally talk to our staff.  The staff seem close to giving up.  We feel sad and somewhat angry.  We offer positive tools and techniques, but the staff is hard put toward using them.  Everything takes time, but the clock is ticking. 

I don't seem able to convince staff that this individual's group could all be a part of, learn from, and contribute toward the attention this individual merits.  This could be a win-win situation for all of us.  Our thinking remains that a chain is only as strong as the weakest link.  It seems most people just want to be angered over the behaviors instead of fixing things one small step at a time.  I think we need next prayers of divine intervention.  We all need to help.