We help people problem solve and put ideas into perspective (It is our job). We often ask, "Is this a big thing, or a little thing?" If it is a big thing, then we talk about it and its affect on our life, if it is a little thing, we practice letting go.
I’ve made a commitment to another journalist not to return to her site. This includes discussing her "particular life issues." I can discuss how graphic sexuality affects our thoughts and feelings and I can listen to you. Sexuality is a big thing to us because of the affect assertion of sexuality has had in our life.
Maybe it would be fair to start with a definition of "graphic sexuality." As mentioned before we remove ourselves from the graphic bombardment of Internet, television, radio, music, reading, etc., so we are pretty sheltered by what some of you might consider "graphic."
If someone is saying out loud, "I want sex or I’m being sexual and I am going to explain to you how I acted on this desire and which parts of my anatomy were involved," I would consider this graphic. Maybe you could offer your own definition?
I think that AOL journals offer a broad range of opportunity for individuals to express feelings, thoughts, and behavior. The use of the word freedom needs to be addressed in a separate entry (brevity of space).
I don’t believe talking about "issues" in general to be offensive. Sexuality doesn’t have to be offensive, nor are the issues such as abortions, gays, drugs, etc. I’m also all for speaking of life. I certainly agree that some of life can get pretty graphic.
I appreciate your trying to understand our point of view. I may not be able to convey all of it in one simple entry or another.
The usage of the word "dirty," is too young and slang like for us. We’ll accept this definition of pornographic from Merrium-Webster, "the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement."
We celebrate the greatness of life often and are open to other points of view. I think we all should be talking of sex, but that would be different than a belief we should all be acting it out.
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"We celebrate the greatness of life..."
Now, there's an eloquent statement.
Keep Glowing~keep helping
chekyalata, the slack
I think you stated your position clearly and succintly,Ayn.
Vince
I think sex is a huge part of life, as much as death, or birth, or jobs, or family, or anything... it's an important part of life and probably does slip in and out of some journaler's journals. Journalers have the right to express themselves however they see fit in their own personal journals. It should be *their* space. But we, as the readers, have the right not to read anything we deem inappropriate for us. If a particular journal makes you uncomfortable, Ayn, avoid it. Easy Peasy. :)
great entry Ayn! you spoke your mind, and offered up your opinion in anyway you see fit....and I guess that's the opportunity everyone gets in Aol-j land. I agree with some comments, if it's offensive to you, don't read it. simple as that. but, also....if YOU feel like you need to report it, then fine, go ahead. but, I would do it in a way that only I was involved and no one else. keep speaking your mind lady! :)
i think the decision for you to stop visiting a particular journal is valid, responsible and intelligent. It's a healthy decision.
Now can we talk about something even more important than sex...like say me, for instance? (wink.)
i think it is a healthy and wonderful decision you made to not return to the site that you find inappropriate. i guess what i consider graphic is the way someone would use their sentences. example: if someone is saying i want sex and explaining how they acted upon it and which part of the anatomy they used. i would only consider this graphic if they used vulgar words to describe that anatomy. or the sexual act. we all know what vulgar words can be used to describe sexuality. and my feelings on the webster def. that says erotic behavior intended to cause sexual excitement....i don't think i've stumbled upon a journal yet that was trying to, nor has sexually excited me. i do think it's a shame when anyone is subjected to seeing something they find offensive, but to stay away from that place is a good choice to make. good luck.
Ayn, I am glad you have come to an understanding with the journaler in question and have come to a decision that is best for yourself. I believe in the freedome to express one's thoughts and said journaler has a right to write as she sees fit, even if it's sexual in nature. My only concern is the young readers who might possible come across her journal. I don't think parents can restrict children's account on whether they can venture into AOL-J. Or can they? I hope so.
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